DEAR UNCLE WILLIAM 14

Dying embers of 2011 extended edition.

CAN'T COME, WON'T COME
(Cosmopolitan, 12/2011)
I can't orgasm during sex and I hate it when men insist on trying to make me. Sometimes I fake one to stop them. I still enjoy sex; I just don't feel the need to climax. Why can't men accept that?

Uncle William says:
Why can't you accept the fact that these men that you've chosen to have sex with can't accept that you can't orgasm? Oh, and by the way, men fake orgasms too.

I SUSPECT MY DAUGHTER'S BOYFRIEND IS GAY. WHAT DO I DO?
(The Guardian, 10/2011)
My daughter aged 19 is going out with a boy whom I suspect is gay. This is her first relationship, and I am worried for her. We have had lots of talks about him and her sexuality. How does a parent handle such a situation?

Uncle William says:
Your daughter is aged 19. She is going out with a boy. You think it's her first relationship. You do nothing.

REGRET OVER MY BATHROOM ROMP
(Just Jane, 22/12/2011)
I stupidly had wild sex with a girl at a Christmas party and now she won’t leave me alone.
It was a pretty wild party and most people were snogging and groping each other, so it’s not like it meant anything.

 Now she’s constantly texting me and phoning me and it’s driving me nuts.

 
So far I’ve managed to avoid her when I’ve been out but I know I’ve been lucky as she texts to tell me that she’s just missed me in the pub or club and could I just meet her.

 
Well, the answer is no.

 
The fact is that this girl made all the running and started dancing in front of me. Then she got close and started to kiss my neck.

What’s a guy to do?

 Pushing her off would have just been rude and when she started pulling me towards the bathroom who was I to say no?

 
Within seconds we had our clothes off and were having sex on the floor by the bath. 


Luckily I had a condom and after we had finished we got dressed and I suggested we leave separately. I told her to wait five minutes and went home.

 
I later heard that she’d been looking for me everywhere

. Now I can’t get rid of her.

 I promised her nothing and it was her who made the first move and dragged me to the bathroom.

 How can I get her off my back?

Uncle William says:
Men, and I hesitate to use the word 'man' in your case, can be such adolescent fools.
Don't you realise it's exactly your stupid asshole avoidance strategy that makes it mean something. You give somebody a nice piece of something and then whisk it away from them for no obvious reason, then they're going to come running after it, maybe obsessively.
How about you strap on a pair, phone her to meet up for coffee, and tell her face to face that you're not ready for a relationship?
How hard really is that?

And on that note, your Uncle William wishes an intensely happy and fruitful 2012 to everyone who reads this stuff.

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CUT HANDS LIVE UPDATE 6

More new shows added, including some details on the tour Stateside! As usual, more info is on the way.

19th Jan : Rhiz (Vienna, Austria)
20th Jan : tbc (Prague, Czech Republic)
21st Jan : KLICKclub @ Kunsthaus 54 (Berlin, Germany)
26th Jan : Supersimetria (Barcelona, Spain) - Florian Hecker + Phill Niblock et al.
1st Feb : CTM12 Festival (Berlin, Germany)
4th Feb : Islington Mill (Manchester, UK) - Raime + Regis
tbc Feb : (Seattle, USA)
tbc Feb : (Portland, USA)
tbc Feb : (San Francisco, USA)
tbc Feb : (Los Angeles, USA)
tbc Feb : (Austin, USA)
17th Feb : tbc (St. Louis, USA)
18th Feb : Empty Bottle (Chicago, USA)
19th Feb : tbc (Cleveland, USA)
21st Feb : (Pittsburgh, USA)
23rd Feb : tbc (Washington DC, USA)
24th Feb : Public Assembly (New York, USA)
25th Feb : tbc (Boston, USA)
21st Mar : Instants Chavirés (Paris, France)
29th : Avatarium Festival (Saint Étienne, France)